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"Feminism knows vaginas are inherently sexy without any outside help, thanks. In a world where Cosmo headlines claim they’ll tell you how to get a “sexy vagina” and where labiaplasty is a thing, feminism says, “Hold on, aren’t sex organs pretty much the definition of ‘sexy’?” Any sexual partner worth anything will love your equipment just as it was issued from nature, without any plastic surgery, waxing, or vajazzling. Hey, go ahead and get a wax or, if you must, vajazzle, but know it’s more for you than for your potential mates—and draw extra confidence from that thought."

— 10 Ways Feminism Is Great for Your Sex Life

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February 28, 2013

"Can we just get one thing out of the way first? You are NOT desperate or “add crazy girlfriend descriptor word here.” So many of the questions I’m receiving are totally reasonable and fine but the person who’s asking them is always writing about how they don’t want to come across as crazy. TRUST ME. YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. When did we all become so paranoid that our wants and needs are psychotic? We’re human beings, damn it! There shouldn’t be so much shame. Unless you’re telling me that you have violent fantasies about murdering your spouse or that you keep cutting their hair when they’re asleep and don’t know why, you are not insane. So stop. Fear Of Being Crazy is a disease that has infected those participating in the world of modern dating and we must find a cure ASAP."

— AMEN.

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Does Technology Lead to More Breakups But Stronger Relationships?

In the best cases, online dating had raised the bar for what they considered a good relationship, given them more opportunities to “fail” in substandard relationships, and, ultimately, led them into great, committed relationships. The result, I hypothesize, is… better relationships, but also, by definition, more breakups, as online daters adapt to a new reality in which technology has made us all a little more replaceable.

Agree? Disagree?

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February 27, 2013

Conversation Between a Twentysomething Single Woman and a Thirtysomething Married Woman

Dating is embarrassing, especially when you’ve got to pitch your best romantic qualities to an anonymous rabble using only a series of Rorschach questionnaires and a thoroughly censored handful of photographs.

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"If the “New York hello” is a middle finger, then the L.A. hello is a nod behind face-swallowing sunglasses. East Coast people call themselves “assertive,” while West Coasters would label them as “aggressive”… In our view, it’s easier to move from New York to L.A. than the other way around. So you can keep your subways and pizzas and we’ll keep our cars and sushi. But make no mistake about it, one truth remains constant: dating in L.A. is just as shitty as dating in New York."

— What New Yorkers Don’t Know About Dating in L.A.

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February 26, 2013

Sex Toys That Everyone Says Are a Good Idea That Are Never a Good Idea

Raise your hand if you’ve ever read a list of sex toys guaranteed to “spice up your love life!”

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February 15, 2013

“What to you on the White Castle menu really says love?” “Probably the double cheeseburger slider.”

What’s Valentine’s Day Really Like at White Castle?

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February 14, 2013

"And to truly succeed in a love match, you must get to know your partner intimately. Not sexually, but intimately. Observe them in their daily life, and see how they respond to stress and aggravation. Are they gracious, or impatient? Do they make that extra effort to help other people feel safe and respected? Are they lazy, or grumpy, or irritable? People can be successful, attractive, and great conversationalists, but if they’re not at home in their own skin, I promise you, they will find a way to make you feel as miserable as they do."

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- How Do You Know If He or She Is ‘The One’?

An excerpt from Fall in Love For Life: Inspiration From a 73-Year Marriage, by Barbara “Cutie” Cooper.

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February 13, 2013

The One Word That Can Derail Your Valentine’s Day

Ultimately, all of this pre-game anxiety creates an impossibly easy trap to fall into–a trap encapsulated by a single word that can and will ruin your entire experience if you let it.

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February 12, 2013

Just because you *can* have casual sex (and you should! if you want to!), you should not feel *obligated* to partake in listless, detached sex.

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February 7, 2013